"To change how people think, rather than what people do…"
This blog is dedicated to previous / future clients and all those who are on a quest for deeper meaning, purpose, clarity about their lives / futures. If you are on a quest, you are not alone. We're in a complicated world with shifting priorities, needs, and challenges.
As a result, I'm focusing my professional journey (SEE: Maslow & the 80000 Hour Career Journey...) / brainpower / resources to help. There's still a lot of work to do…
This week, I focus on a way toward empowerment...
In the previous blog, I spoke about The Power of a Coach...this week, I want to speak about one of the most important tools GREAT COACHES have in their tool box to EMPOWER...
Before I go there let me share share...
My own professional journey has led me toward a business focused on coaching. My coaching focus is for individuals and groups whose objective(s) are to achieve clarity around life, career, and business all the while achieving optimum performance. (SEE: How did I get here?)
Since I've launched my practice, I constantly get queries from people seeking help. The varied requests speak to the depth / breath of need out there. Note: Not all coaching requests are in my wheel-house since I am not a licensed psychologist or counselor and since some of the coaching requests require a psychologist and counseling BEFORE any coaching can take place.
Here are ACTUAL examples I've received in the last week:
The Road Toward Empowerment
At the core of all coaching requests is a desire to achieve clarity. So how do coaches help clients get to clarity?
If you have been coached previously, hopefully your experience / outcome was positive AND what it made it positive was the coach's use of questions. If, on the other hand, you've been coached previously and your experience was less than positive, perhaps it was due to the coaches LACK of questions or rather EFFECTIVE questions.
After the initial conversations to assess fit with a coach, and an assessment or two is completed, an approach I and other coaches use is focused on a practice of Appreciative Inquiry. In certain cases what feeds the questions is the coach's use of assessments. (SEE: Assessment Summary - Picking Your Scissors)
Defined as positively exploring, collectively imagining, collaboratively designing and committing to a path forward. In other words, "To change how people think, rather than what people do…"
Good questions will give you: information; perspective; and eventually control. At the core of Appreciative Inquiry is eliciting "Power Questions". Power questions will:
Below are example questions:
1. Discovery – appreciating – "the best of what is…"
a) What works well now?
b) What has been a high point?
c) What is it you value most about...?
d) What helps you maximize your performance?
e) What’s the best thing about...?
f) What brings life to you / your organization / team?
g) What brings you / your world / people together?
h) Think back through your career. Locate a moment that was a high point, when you felt most effective and engaged. Describe how you felt, and what made the situation possible.
2. Dream – envisioning – "what could be…"
a) What would you want your life / career / organization to look like in one, three, five years time?
b) What is your ideal vision for your life / career / organization?
c) What would you do if...?
d) Describe your three concrete wishes for the future of your life / career / organization.
3. Design – co–constructing – "what should be…"
a) What are the elements needed to create the vision?
b) What is the best structure to support the vision?
c) What long and short-term goals will bring the vision to life? (Are these a real stretch?)
d) What is the bridge between what is the best of what is not (Discovery) and what might be (Dream)?
4. Destiny – sustaining – "what will be…"
a) What can you, your team, do to contribute to the vision?
b) How are you going to deliver the design?
For more examples of Appreciative Inquiry questions, here's a great resource: https://appreciativeinquiry.case.edu/practice/toolsQuestions.cfm
In conclusion, be open to coaching AND by all means, please DON'T try to self-diagnose! Lean in on a coach.
My best to your quest!
I believe each of us is a gift. I create trusted relationships where individuals, teams and leaders NAME, CLAIM and AIM their gifts to achieve optimum performance.
About Mark Myette
I believe each of us is a gift. I create trusted
Based out Roam - Buckhead - 3365 Piedmont Rd NE, Suite 1400 (2nd Floor), Atlanta, GA 30305
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