“…the enemy is strong natural servants who have the potential to lead but do not lead, or who choose to follow a non-servant. They suffer. Society suffers.”
We continue our journey as we go into more detail for EACH SERVANT LEADERSHIP competency Robert Greenleaf identified. This week we discuss HEALING.
Preamble: the events of past weeks have been horrific. The division in our country (and around the world) threatens the future of our society. Our society and different pockets of it are in deep turmoil...as evidenced by:
- People continuing to be underemployed or "mis-employed". (Gallup)
- The middle class is now the minority. (Pew)
- Depression, addiction, and suicide are climbing to unhealthy numbers. (CDC)
- We have some counties in the U.S. where MORE people are dying from drug over-doses than NATURAL causes. (CDC)
- For those currently working, the numbers are also daunting:
o 70%+ are disengaged - i.e they just show up. (Gallup)
o 20% wish harm on the company they work - i.e they cause harm. (Gallup)
- "No religion" is the world's third-largest religious group after Christians and Muslims. (Pew)
We can't deny those truths (despite our personal ideology). No doubt, we or someone we know and love, can use some healing. So, let us delve deeper into a servant leadership competency that has significant promise to right our ship...and as a leader can / will make you stand out from your peers..HEALING.
People talented in healing seek wholeness in themselves and others. According to Larry Spears - president and CEO of The Larry C. Spears Center for ServantLeadership - "The healing of relationships is a powerful force for transformation and integration. One of the great strengths of servant leadership is the potential for healing one’s self and one’s relationship to others. Many people have broken spirits and have suffered from a variety of emotional hurts. Although this is a part of being human, servant leaders recognize THEY have an opportunity to help make whole those with whom they come in contact."
In his essay, "The Servant as Leader", Greenleaf (1977/2002) writes, “There is something subtle communicated to one who is being served and led if, implicit in the compact between servant leader and follower, is the understanding that the search for wholeness is something they share.”
To expand on the concept of healing, Lauren Geertsen - Nutritional Therapy Practitioner, author, and creator of Empowered Sustenance - adds "The sustained dance of true healing means negotiating self-compassion and self-endurance. Gather conviction in the face of uncertainty – know that courage feels like fear, and the strength of your body fails to reflect the strength of your spirit. When positive change appears daunting, channel your soul’s tenacity to patiently and persistently abide in the moment. Ardently express lavish gratitude to your body: unconditional love nurtures the healing journey. Converse gently with the Inner Critic, quieting the accusatory chatter with understanding compassion. Adamantly reject the enticing fantasy of perfection – perfectionism antagonizes transformation and obscures the clarity of your intuition."
Focus of healing
There are numerous areas WHERE healing can take place. Here are the major ones:
When we use the term "healing" we may sometimes miss the nuance that healing can take numerous forms. Below are the main categories of HOW healing can occur:
This is important! In order for someone to be healed they usually need THREE things:
1. Permission (i.e. trust) for the healing process to take place;
2. Desire to be healed; and
3. Do whatever is necessary to facilitate healing (e.g. be vulnerable).
Does that mean NO ONE can / will be healed if they don't meet all three criteria?
Nope! Complete spontaneous healing can occur without permission. It can also take place when the person resists healing, the healing process, the efforts of others, the use of objects, sacred or not sacred.
Healing AND Servant Leadership
The value those who have capacity for healing bring:
- Positive Attitude
- Positive Business Outcomes
The difference between healing and curing...
Another nuance around this healing concept is that healing does not necessarily mean a cure! To help unravel that, it's helpful to identify both for what they are...
Healing - As we've learned it's a restoration of wholeness — not the level of wholeness before the diagnosis but a restoration of wholeness that is new, different, and comparatively better than before the onset of a disease.
Curing - A restoration of health, an absence of symptoms, and a remedy of disease.
So, in other words, healing is not the removal or end of symptoms,. Rather, it's a process that transcends the physical and includes mental, emotional, and spiritual vitality and wellness.
According to Maria Mooney - licensed social worker, certified holistic health coach, social media and editorial assistant at KrisCarr.com and freelance writer - "Where we tend to go wrong is that our Western medical model stops at curing when healing is necessary to address the root causes of many of our ailments. Negative thought patterns, toxic relationships, poor diets, sedentary lifestyles, and poor stress management each are little drops in the raging waterfall that becomes the dis-ease that will drown your life. Committing to the healing process, even if a cure is available for you, is wonderful insurance for a healthy future."
Healing May be the Cure!
Healing brings health, peace, and wholeness. Negative symptoms may never go away, yet, that doesn’t mean we'll never be whole again. Often times we limit ourselves to what others predict for our future. Someone with ability to heal / help others can help us break free and blaze a trail toward wholeness no one expected to see. Servant leaders demonstrating healing direct all of their attention / intentions on the healing that CAN happen. And sometimes, once healed, the cure (although different than what we expect) WILL follow!
My best to your quest!
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