If you're like me, you may have a tendency to collect things. We as society collect things. Lots of things - the tangible and intangible.
If you're also like me, you don't realize how much "stuff" we accumulate and, as a result, if we are not careful, we will begin to experience negative side effects and outcomes.
This blog will address the WHAT, WHY, SIDE EFFECTS and BENEFITS to PURGE...ON PURPOSE! In a follow up blog we will discuss details about HOW to PURGE...ON PURPOSE!
The process of purging can be a physical and emotional strain. Many of us do not have a disciplined approach to the purging process. Usually it's something we don't do enough. Many wait months or years.
The TANGIBLE Stuff...
Let's first consider these stats for the PHYSICAL stuff and what clutter and physical chaos in our life is costing us and also consider whether the value of becoming more organized is worth our time and effort!
Why Do We Collect?
A study - “Truly, Madly, Deeply: Consumers in the Throes of Material Possession Love” - says loneliness is to blame. Material possession love, as they define it, involves an attachment that incorporates passion, intimacy, and commitment. When marriages don’t have all three of those - someone will seek other outlets.
The INTANGIBLE Stuff...
Truth be told what's really debilitating is the stuff we collect that is not physical. It's the emotional stuff that can really bog us down and much like the garage, basement, closets and attic it can become over whelming. It includes: negative thoughts, resentment, and inability to "let go" of the past - that may include bad choices, the perception whether real or imagined of wrongs done to us.
Consider the data points from the National Institute for Mental Health and others:
Impacts in the Workplace
At the core, the negative impacts of not purging at work are dramatic. Some of these were highlighted in the previous blog - Conflict...ON Purpose!
What Happens When We Collect Too Much and Can't Let Go?
Stress - Living a life surrounded by the tangible AND intangible clutter is not a step toward balance it's a step toward stress. Your living environment can cause some serious strain on you emotionally. For me, I get to a place where I feel stuck. My productivity falls off and the clutter just keeps building. When I feel that way, I know that getting rid of some things can only cause me relief.
Resentment - The longer I experience stress and do NOT deal with it - i.e. PURGE - the resentment builds. Think of a pot of water that comes to a boil...it does not happen immediately but the longer heat is applied the water WILL come to a boil. Resentment is kind of like that.
Frustration - I need releases. If not frustration builds. - which is why I usually work out 5-6 days a week, meditate and pray daily, listen to faith-based sermons, inspirational talks and usually positive radio / TV programming.
Disharmony - if you are in a relationship, have a family, or are part of a team...this cluttered life will invariably cause disharmony.
Depression - prolonged periods of the stress, frustration and disharmony will eventually lead to depression.
Inability to Concentrate - Our brains simply get overstimulated and cannot put energy into processing the clutter along with completing complicated mental tasks.
Diminished Mental Processing - this is like a domino effect...stress, disharmony reduced ability to process information.
Reduced Productivity - need I say more...
Benefits of Purging:
Freedom! You will feel free! As a matter of fact, getting rid of the PHYSICAL clutter would eliminate 40% of the housework in the average home. (National Soap & Detergent Association) Systematically getting rid of the EMOTIONAL clutter would be PRICELESS!
Space! Allow the space (virtual or physical) for something new and great to come into your life. In essence, purging can help you discover the REAL you.
Ability to "Roll with It"! Like water off the back of a duck as the tangible / intangible things threaten to clutter your life you will find it usually will not! You have momentum to keep it in check.
Improved performance! Mentally and physically you will feel alert / engaged / liberated / energetic.
Better Mental State! The quality of our relationships, our positive emotions, resilience, satisfaction with life, or the realization of our potential will be enormous!
Reduced load! The ability to deal with the PHYSICAL clutter will help save you time and money especially when it comes time to move - which ~13% of the U.S. population does EACH year! (U.S. Postal Service) The ability to deal with the EMOTIONAL clutter will be as if a weight has been lifted! You and I will be able to not only move on BUT thrive!
Teachable moment! How we handle our clutter is great to be able to demonstrate to our loved ones and those we work. We will be able to demonstrate the value of "things". If they have their own clutter - like "toys" they haven’t played with in years - this is a great time to show them how you purge. How you handle clutter could be a defining factor to a child and team's development.
Other Related Positive Outcomes:
Bottom line: by doing the PURGE...ON PURPOSE and holding onto LESS is an invitation to freedom, intentionality, and passion. It can be discovered at your nearest drop-off center, counseling center, workout facility, mediation center, church, mosque or synagogue. Purge away (clothes, excess, baggage, problems and people) and welcome in the new!
Look out for a follow up blog when we will discuss details about HOW to PURGE...ON PURPOSE!
My best to your quest!
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